In her book Father Hunger: Fathers, Daughters, and the Pursuit of Thinness
- 1. Know what you don’t know. Learn about your daughter’s life. Don’t believe that your experience and hers are similar; in fact, you are years and cultures apart. Respect the differences.
- 2. Consider the many impacts globalization will have on her life. Think about the variety of skills and coping mechanisms she will need to succeed in her world. Do what you can to help her develop these.
- 3. Show interest in her activities. Don’t just expect her to tag along with you or to like the things you like. Enter her world, by sharing her music, going places that she wants to visit, and doing things she enjoys.
- 4. Take the quiz, How Well Am I Doing as My Daughter’s Father to assess the gaps in your knowledge about your daughter’s life. Commit to improving your score and take it again in 2 months.
- 5. Watch what she is exposed to on TV or the internet. Set rules about both- endless solitary hours with either are not necessarily healthy. Encourage alternative media, like the girl-run New Moon Girl Media.
- 6. Encourage her to identify and discuss her emotions and opinions. Let her disagree with you without withdrawing your affection. Show respect for the differences between you.
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2 comments:
This is one area that is near and dear to my heart-- and I think it's incredibly important that girls have their fathers as a solid and profound resource in their lives. I just posted 2 video blogs on the instilling confidence in children on my parenting blog. Part 1 is http://tinyurl.com/b839g3 and part 2 is http://tinyurl.com/cylhvw This topic of helping girls feel good about themselves is also a common topic on my body image resource guide such as http://tinyurl.com/b9olnq
From all the research I've done again and again for my current book, I've learned one main thing from girls about their Dads. They wish they had done more-- said more-- helped more. Thank you for bringing this topic to light.
Best regards,
Dr. Robyn
I got married and the mother of my first child doesn't want my four daughter to come over cause she is afraid of being replaced by my wife. I've expressed to her repeatedly that me and my wife explain the roles of everyone. I don't have legal custody so I have to go over to the mothers house to see my daughter. I hate hate hate going over there, but i do it anyway. my question is what are the chance of getting some kind of custody better than just every weekend for men these days.
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